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A Neglected Grace: Family Worship in the Christian Home

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Pastor Jason Helopoulos calls parents and church leaders to reclaim the practice of family worship. This indispensable means of grace directs our children to seek Christ daily, preparing them to go out into the world as fully functioning Christian adults, who love Christ and see all of life in relation to Him.

128 pages, Paperback

First published June 30, 2013

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Jason Helopoulos

9 books25 followers
Jason was born in the “Land of Lincoln,” central Illinois. He graduated from Eastern Illinois University in 1999. Jason then attended Dallas Theological Seminary and completed a Masters of Theology degree (ThM) with a concentration in Historical Theology and Christian Education in 2003. He served on the staff of Park Cities Presbyterian Church as a pastoral intern for one year and then accepted a call as an Assistant Pastor at Meadowview Reformed Presbyterian Church (PCA) in Lexington, North Carolina. In the fall of 2007, Jason was called by Christ Church PCA in Grand Rapids, Michigan to plant a daughter church in Lansing, Michigan. He accepted the call and moved to the field (and snow) as church planter and pastored Providence PCA in East Lansing until 2012. In the summer of 2012, Jason accepted the call as Assistant Pastor of University Reformed Church in East Lansing, Michigan and accepted the call to Senior Pastor in the spring of 2018.

Jason is married to his beautiful bride, Leah. They are blessed with two wonderful children, Gracen and Ethan.

He enjoys spending time with his family, history, reading, laughing, watching a good Chicago Bears’ game (as rare as they are), and feasting upon Chicago-style pizza.

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Profile Image for Evan Cruse.
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May 5, 2023
I keep using the phrase balm in my reviews, but this book was a balm for a family shifting from a church background with limited emphasis on family worship to a covenant family understanding.
72 reviews1 follower
September 1, 2021
Un excellent livre sur le culte familial!
Ma prière est que tout chef de famille puissent prendre le temps de le lire.
Que vous soyez en train d'instaurer un culte familial chez vous ou qu'il soit déjà bien entamé, ce livre vous sera très utile.
Il donne d'excellents conseils pour demeurer ordonné et stable, ainsi que plusieurs conseils pour certaines situations compliquées.
Vous y trouverez:
- L'importance de la stabilité des cultes
- Conseil pour la structure des cultes
- Une section "que faire si?" (Mon époux est incroyant, pas intéressé, mes enfants ont un grand écart d'âge, etc.)
L'auteur est bien disposé sur le sujet et surtout réaliste dans notre contexte, ce qui rend le livre particulièrement intéressant et utile.
35 reviews1 follower
September 24, 2020
Un livre que je recommande chaudement à tous les chefs de famille. Maris, pères, mères monoparentales! Et jeunes hommes qui désirent se marier! Il montre la base et l'importance du culte familiale pour l'édification de nos familles dans l'adoration et la conformité de nos vies à celle de notre Seigneur. C'est un très bon encourageant à faire ce qui est commandé par l'Éternel et qui a été oublié par notre société. À Dieu soit la gloire!
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26 reviews6 followers
May 5, 2021
This was a pretty solid book and an important subject. Not overly idealistic or unrealistic. Includes a great foundation of the “why” behind worship the identity of God’s people as worshippers (private, corporate, and family). It’s very practical and also includes encouragement for some unfortunately common challenges for some families in this area. All in all it was straightforward and what I would expect from a book of this length.
3 reviews
May 11, 2022
I would highly recommend this book! Just waiting for the hubby to finish it so we can work to implement what we learn!
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December 30, 2018
Great little book on family devotions. Family worship should include singing, Scripture reading, and prayer. Provided historical perspective, anecdotes, and practical tips.
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83 reviews9 followers
August 11, 2013
A Neglected Grace: Family Worship in the Christian Home, is a great little book by Jason Helopoulos that desires to be a gentle nudge to all Christians to actively participate in family worship. Jason sets out at the beginning of his book to make sure that his readers understand that his true desire is not for them to incur guilt because they don't practice family worship (or they practice it infrequently), but that they would be encouraged to overcome, by God's grace, every stumbling block that is currently hindering them from this biblical act of obedience. I loved this quote from Jason on Page 11:

"As we approach the subject of family worship it is helpful to be reminded that it is nothing more than our response in the home to God's magnificent and infinite grace. And it is by that grace that we gather together with our family members to delight in His excellent goodness and eternal glory. Family worship is not something we have to do. Our right standing before God is not impacted by whether we lead our families in worship or not. Christ has already accomplished all for our salvation. Rather, family worship, like other spiritual disciplines, becomes something we want to do."

Jason calls family worship a "joyful responsibility", and I wholeheartedly agree with him. Too often, those of us who actually practice family worship, treat it like it is another box we need to check off on our Christian to-do list, rather than viewing it as a wonderful privilege to share the love of Christ with our other family members on a daily basis and watch the Spirit move in all of our lives. This is especially true for us who have loved ones in our family who are currently not born-again believers...sharing the love of Christ by sitting together as a family and discussing the things of Christ, reading the Word systematically from the beginning of a book to the end of that book, memorizing Scripture together, and then praying over what was read/other areas of concern in our lives is a way for us to glorify God. Consistent, and God-glorifying family worship, is one of the best ways for us to proclaim the excellency of the gracious and merciful God who redeemed us through the precious blood of His Son. We can hang every manner of Joshua 24:15 plaque/banner that we want to in our homes, but nothing "screams louder" that our house truly serves the Lord than consistent and genuine family worship that doesn't incur guilt because they don't practice family worship as often as they want to but a family who practices worship together because they want to and don't turn it into a form of legalism.

This is definitely not a long book, and Jason even acknowledges at the outset of his book that this is not an exhaustive book about family worship, but I think it fully accomplishes what Jason intended it to accomplish and that is a book that gently encourages those who are discouraged in family worship to stay faithful, to those who aren't practicing family worship to "just do it", and offers those who are thinking about doing it sample ways to do it. I have already given one copy of this book to someone in my church and will fully recommend it to others going forward.

I received this for free from Christian Focus Publications via Cross Focused Reviews for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
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37 reviews3 followers
July 15, 2021
Une grâce négligée est un petit livre qui encourage les chrétiens à faire des cultes familiaux. Il démontre l’importance de cette pratique et donne de nombreux conseils pratiques afin d’aider ceux qui ont plus de difficulté avec le culte familial. Jason Helopoulos fait attention à ne pas trop culpabiliser ceux qui ne pratiquent pas le culte familial, il cherche plutôt à les encourager et les exhorter à le faire. C’est un livre que tout chef de famille devrait lire.
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607 reviews21 followers
April 10, 2014
Excellent encouragement towards family worship, including a list of helpful resources and sample structures. There are a number of similar books, but this one felt most like it was written in the voice of a father, rather than the caricature of a stern presbyterian elder with a long flowing beard. He helpfully focuses on the idea that family worship is worship, not family time, and allows that insight to simplify things down to Bible, singing, and prayer. I'll be getting more of these to give away.
Profile Image for Rachel Powell.
36 reviews
July 7, 2015
A quick, easy read with some good points and practical ideas. I like the fact that he sets high expectations and says that "we too often underestimate our children." In addition to the basic elements of Bible reading, prayer, and singing, he encourages old-fashioned disciplines like learning the catechism. "Catechizing is a lost discipline in the evangelical church today, and we are suffering as a result."
Profile Image for William.
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September 15, 2013
Chapter two contains a strong admonition to fathers. The author does a good job of discussing the responsibility of the husband/father to not only care for the physical needs of the family but also the spiritual needs (cp. 1 Tim. 5:8).
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47 reviews1 follower
June 15, 2014
This is a good little book that introduces and describes family worship, a neglected grace. It's brief and accessible an provides some encouragement and tools to practice family worship but is also realistic and full of grace for us stumbling and bumbling our ways through.
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160 reviews4 followers
August 29, 2016
Short, solid, presentation of the need for family worship in Christian homes, and what family worship can look like. I read through this book in just a couple of hours, and was left greatly encouraged to incorporate much of what I read into my own home.
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62 reviews6 followers
April 14, 2014
Good practical book on the importance of family worship. Some helpful appendices at the end.
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February 19, 2018
Excellent. Très pratique pour aider des gens à developper et comprendre cette habitude souvent pas pratiquer.
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423 reviews29 followers
August 5, 2013
The idea of family worship for some may conjure up images of the days of the Puritans or perhaps even the days of Little House on the Prairie. In an age where most families activities are centered on work, school, after-school pursuits with worship and Bible study often restricted to Sunday mornings, the idea of carving out time for consistent family worship and Bible study might seem impossible. Jason Helopoulos, in his book A Neglected Grace: Family Worship in the Christian Home, provides the reader with a biblically centric and practical guide for families to instituted what God commands, namely the necessity to build families on the foundation of Scripture and glorifying God.

As a fan of the Puritans, I was immediately excited to read what Helopoulos had to say in his book and I will state right off the bat, I was not disappointed one iota. In the tradition of the Puritan authors, Helopoulos provides not only the biblical mandate for instituting family worship, he also provides numerous practical ways for families of all shape, sizes, age ranges, and levels of busyness to establish this important element in their homes.

Helopoulos readily admits that family worship is not easy and can at times seem rigorous and forced. In response to that perception, he notes “leading our families in worship is a responsibility that is given to us.” Commands in Scripture such as Deuteronomy 6:6-7 states “These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.” The words spoken of in that passage refer to Scripture. Furthermore, worshiping God by engaging His word and singing praises to His name should bring us unending joy.

As a new father of an adopted soon to be 12 year old girl, I am becoming more mindful of my responsibility as the shepherd of my little flock of three which includes me, my wife, and our daughter. Part of this responsibility as a shepherd is to “tend the sheep” God has blessed me with. Helopoulos rightly notes “God is honored and glorified as a Christian family gathers to commune with him, receive from Him, and give praise, adoration, and thanksgiving to Him.” Instituting consistent family worship is the means by which I can, as a shepherd of my family, establish a framework by which my family remains devoted to worshiping God and studying His word. As Helopoulos so wonderfully states, “A family that reads the Bible, prays together, and sings praise to God will begin to have its actions, thoughts, and words shaped by this daily event.”

With the necessity of family worship as a foundation, Helopoulos provides a number of practical reasons and methods by which families can start practicing family worship. He notes that family worship is just that, worship of a holy God. Thus, it should be approached as serious business and not a time for entertainment or fun and games. This certainly does not mean that family worship has to be boring or dreadful by any means. However, one should not approach the throne of grace with a lackadaisical attitude. Worship can thus be anything from reading God’s word, singing songs of praise, prayer or any combination of those. With that said, Helopoulos aptly notes “If the Scriptures teach the truth of God and what He desires from us, which they do, then they must have central place in our worship together.” Reading the Bible together as a family may be a bit frightening for some parents as they may be a bit nervous their children may ask them a question for which they do not know the answer. Other parents might feel as if most of Scripture is above the level of understanding for their children. To the former issue, Helopoulos reminds the reader to “take their time. It is something to endeavor towards. However, do not let that fear stop you form reading the Word of God with your family.” In addressing the idea children may not be able to understand Scripture, Helopoulos comments “We too often underestimate the power of the Word of God. And we too often underestimate our children.”

I really appreciated the encouragement of Helopoulos for families to sing songs of praise together using hymns, praise songs or even responsive readings. Singing as a family, especially for those tonally challenged, might seem embarrassing at first, however, all God requests is a joyful noise which at first may be all that comes from your mouth. Regardless of how well one might sing, singing praise to God is a vital part of family worship and for my family, I think it will be awkward at first but well worth the effort.

Additionally, the emphasis on interacting with the ancient creedal statements and catechisms was also greatly appreciated. Far too many people view these statements of the faith as the area of the scholar, something Helopoulos rightly rejects. In fact, he provides in the appendix section of this book, numerous resources to include the Apostle’s Creed and the Nicene Creed. These important creedal statements of faith combined with the Westminster Confession of Faith and the Heidelberg Catechism, are historical statements of faith that can become a vital part of family worship.

A Neglected Grace is a truly valuable shot in the arm for families to engage worshiping God together as a family unit, something Scripture actually commands us to do. The timeless truths discussed by Helopoulos are vital to the health of the overall family unit. As the head of my household, I was excited to read this book and what Helopoulos has to share has encouraged, invigorated, and spurred me to institute family worship as a daily element of my family’s relationship with God. I highly recommend this book for those desiring to grow together as a family in the fear and admonition of the Lord as well as for those wanting to discover ways to train up their children in the way they should go so when they are older, they will not so quickly depart from the ways of God. Instituting a family tradition such as family worship will benefit not just your immediate family unit, it will also benefit generations to come.

I received this for free from Christian Focus Publications via Cross Focused Reviews for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
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183 reviews6 followers
February 9, 2022
Great read on the importance of family worship, which could be simply described as a daily gathering to pray, read scripture, and sing hymns together as a family.

It was interesting to read old theologians and pastors comment on the importance of family worship as it made you think, why was this practice lost? I would have enjoyed even more quotations from people long ago who valued family worship, but I think it’s good the author focused more on the practicalities/importance of why we should strive to do this still today.

I think personally, the plan for our family will be to build up gradually and adapt what we can and cannot include in our schedule. The idea is to not be legalistic or check off a box. I think these daily practices will grow naturally with our family.

Lastly, The author is very understanding and humble in his approach. I appreciated that. So, you can read this as a single parent, the spouse of an unbeliever, a family with kids who have huge age gaps, or lots of young children, etc and he explains how family worship may look in these different circumstances.
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23 reviews5 followers
November 13, 2017
Really glad I picked this one up. Makes times of Family Worship quite simple and doable for any household. Men should read this to be encouraged to put God's word in front of their families regularly. If you've failed as a husband/father in the home, don't feel shamed to not pursue this. Helopoulos makes it easy. Read. Sing. Pray. You don't need to be a theologian to read the scripture with your family. You don't need to be a professional singer to sing simple songs of praise in the home. You don't need to be a pastor to pray with power in the home. Just read, sing, and pray together and watch how the Lord ministers to your family over the long haul. One great encouragement I found reading this was that it isn't necessarily about transformative moments with your family, but ongoing faithfulness that can leave great impact on your family.
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445 reviews30 followers
May 21, 2021
I get the feeling that Helopoulos doesn't know his audience OR he was trying to get to a set number of pages by a publisher. He spends half the book telling you who did "family worship" in the past, what they said about it, and the historicity of it, but doesn't get to the point until (sort of at that) page 51.

I do appreciate history, I will even read theology books FOR FUN, but I also think of the need of busy parents and that he should have put the ending at the beginning...and made reasonable steps for how to accomplish his goal. I think most parents wouldn't get through the first 50 pages and would wonder where the practical was in this book.
5 reviews1 follower
March 14, 2024
This books is quite a gift the body of Christ!

Jason suggests in the intro to skip the first couple of chapters if you’re already convinced of the need/benefit of family worship; I’m sure glad I didn’t.

This is a short, very easy read, that gives a good high level theological overview of family worship but is very practical.

It immediately helped motivate me as a father leading a wife and two young kids to be consistent with FW, and gave practical ways to tweak and improve what we had already been doing.

I’m my convinced than ever that family worship is perhaps the most powerful means of Grace outside of Sunday worship to shape lives and ultimate impact the broader culture.

60 reviews1 follower
March 23, 2018
Helopoulos has a gift for presenting admonition and exhortation in an encouraging way. His book is a personalized version of Don Whitney’s Family Worship. He uses the combination of read, pray, and sing, along with other options depending on what works in a given family. He walks through what, in his experience, works and what doesn’t work. For a culture that struggles mightily with family devotions, we would do well to learn from those who have consistently practiced them over the course of their lives. The Appendix is a good place to start with implementation.
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5 reviews2 followers
January 7, 2018
Practically, it is a good read. It starts off with the reasoning behind family worship and ends with how-to and how not-to and a grace-based mention that no one will do this perfectly. While acknowledging single mothers, the author puts such a heavy emphasis on male leadership that I nearly gave up reading. I'm glad I finished, though, because he does give helpful information. I also appreciated the reminder that "it is never a failure to run to God." pg103.
Profile Image for Amanda.
150 reviews
November 30, 2023
4.5
Short but sweet - would recommend if you are curious about the how’s and why’s of family worship in an encouraging manner.
(It is written from a complementarian perspective but easy to adapt if you are egalitarian.)
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109 reviews
December 4, 2023
Loved this book! I will be gifting it to many fathers in the years to come. It is clear, concise, and Biblical. What more could you ask for? Especially for parents who have little time for reading to begin with.
56 reviews2 followers
January 25, 2020
An excellent primer on Family Worship, particularly for those (like me) who have never given it much thought. It's left me with much to think about and do!
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June 11, 2020
Great read. Great practical applications, especially with young ones.
6 reviews1 follower
December 2, 2020
Excellent, concise book on the necessity of and practices for family worship.
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